Tuesday, December 2, 2025

Believe it or Not

 Believe it or Not

I have always believed in an afterlife, but since my husband’s death seven years ago, I have come to believe that those who go before us can somehow communicate with us from the other side.  They do so by sending signs, reminders that jog our memories and bring thoughts to our minds.  I’d say, however, you’d have to be receptive to these signs in order to interpret them in this way.  For example, many people identify with loved ones by sighting cardinals.  The saying goes: “When cardinals appear, angels are near”.  A cardinal is considered a sign from heaven.  In the same way, others see dragonflies or butterflies that symbolize to them that their deceased loved ones are nearby.  I myself have encountered bright red cardinals that fly in front of my car windshield on countless occasions since my husband passed away.  Each time, I consider it a greeting from him.  I also have found dimes on the ground in parking lots.  I’ve found feathers in my yard.  I’ve heard “our song”, "Walking on Sunshine", on the radio when I least expected it.  In fact, on Thanksgiving Day, I heard an old song called “Wind Beneath my Wings” that was played at our wedding.  I had not heard it in years and apparently my son had an oldies station playing in the background during our meal.  Today, however, I had a sign that was incredible to me. 

I had gone to my “happy place” which is the local thrift store.  I can wander around there for hours, as it is relaxing to me.  It is nostalgic and it takes me back to a simpler time somehow.  I see things others have discarded that are reminiscent of my childhood.  I’m always searching for a vintage treasure.  Also, the music they play in that store is so calming and uplifting. Today, I looked mostly at old books and old Christmas decorations and ornaments.  I found myself completely lost in another world.  When I go there, my mind does not race, and my thoughts are on nothing else except the looking.  I found a few books and a wire basket and headed to the cashier.  At the checkout line, there were more ornaments that I sorted through.  As I left the building, I glanced at my watch and could not believe how much time had actually passed.  When I got back to my car door, I noticed that an ornament that I did not purchase was attached to the bottom of my sweater with its wire hanger.  I remember seeing it on the rack but did not choose to buy it.  It was a clear plastic oval embossed with “Merry Christmas and 1983”.  I closed my car door and went back into the store to return it.  The attendant at the door took it from me and thanked me for bringing it in.  He said “oh, it’s trying to sneak its way out of here”!  I wish I had purchased it but didn’t want to stand in line again.  You see, 1983 was the year that I met my husband.  I took that as a sign that he was with me.  I mean, 1983 was 42 years ago.  What are the odds that an ornament that old would coincidentally get attached to my sweater?  It is circumstances like this one that make me a believer that he is making his presence known.  At least that’s what I choose to believe.

Tammy Harvey 

12/01/2025